BSL Counselling Attachment & Relationship Difficulties Counselling Near King’s Lynn & West Norfolk
When Relationships Feel Intense, Fragile or Repetitive
Relationships can be one of the most meaningful parts of life — and also the most painful.
You may find yourself caught in repeated patterns: choosing emotionally unavailable partners, fearing abandonment, over-functioning in relationships, or feeling anxious when someone pulls away. Perhaps conflict feels overwhelming, closeness feels unsafe, or you struggle to trust even when you want to.
I offer attachment and relationship counselling near King’s Lynn for adults who feel stuck in painful relational cycles. I work with clients across West Norfolk and Norwich, as well as providing online counselling across the UK.
Therapy provides space to understand not just what is happening in your relationships — but why.
How Attachment Patterns Develop
Attachment patterns often form early in life. If relationships in childhood felt unpredictable, critical, neglectful or unsafe, your nervous system may have learned to stay alert, withdraw, people-please, or protect itself through distance.
These adaptations once made sense.
As adults, they can show up as:
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Fear of abandonment
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Anxiety when someone is distant
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Avoiding emotional closeness
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Difficulty setting boundaries
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Intense jealousy or reassurance seeking
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Repeated unhealthy relationship patterns
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Feeling responsible for others’ emotions
Attachment work is not about blame. It is about understanding how your relational blueprint developed — and how it can change.
Trauma & Eating Patterns
For many people, disordered eating develops in response to trauma — particularly childhood emotional neglect, relational trauma, or experiences where control and safety were compromised.
Restricting, bingeing or over-controlling food can become ways of managing a dysregulated nervous system. They may have once felt protective.
In therapy, we gently explore the function these behaviours serve. Rather than focusing only on stopping the behaviour, we build safer ways of regulating emotion and increasing internal stability. This trauma-informed approach reduces shame and supports long-term change.
Traumatic Relationships & Relational Trauma
Some attachment difficulties stem from specific traumatic relationships, including emotional abuse, coercive control, domestic violence or betrayal.
Traumatic relationships can leave lasting impacts:
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Hypervigilance in new relationships
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Difficulty trusting
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Self-doubt or confusion
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Strong emotional reactions to perceived rejection
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Shame around staying or returning
In therapy, we approach these experiences gently and at your pace. Safety and stabilisation come first, especially where trauma is involved.
Family Issues & Ongoing Relational Strain
Attachment work is not limited to romantic relationships. Many people seek support because of:
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Ongoing family conflict
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Estrangement
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Boundary difficulties
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Feeling unseen or unheard
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Being “the responsible one”
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Carrying emotional roles within the family
Therapy offers space to explore how these dynamics affect your current sense of self and your ability to form secure relationships.
My Approach to Attachment & Relationship Work
My approach is integrative and trauma-informed. We focus on:
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Building emotional regulation skills
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Increasing awareness of relational triggers
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Strengthening boundaries
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Developing self-trust
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Creating safer ways to experience closeness
Rather than simply analysing past events, we pay attention to how attachment patterns show up in the present — including within the therapeutic relationship itself. This creates opportunities for new relational experiences built on safety and consistency.
Change in attachment patterns takes time. It is gradual, steady work — but deeply transformative.
Attachment Counselling Near King’s Lynn
I am based in a private village setting near King’s Lynn, offering a calm and contained space for relational and attachment-focused therapy. I support clients across West Norfolk and Norwich, as well as online across the UK.
Whether you attend face-to-face or online, therapy provides a consistent and reflective space to begin shifting patterns that may have shaped your relationships for years.
Frequently Asked Questions
Do you offer relationship counselling for couples?
I currently work with individuals rather than couples. Attachment work focuses on understanding your relational patterns and how they developed.
Can attachment patterns really change?
Yes. With awareness, regulation and new relational experiences, attachment patterns can become more secure over time.
Is attachment work linked to trauma therapy?
Often, yes. Many attachment difficulties have roots in relational trauma. Where appropriate, we integrate trauma-informed approaches.
How long does attachment therapy take?
This varies. Some clients seek short-term support around specific relational difficulties, while others engage in longer-term work to address complex patterns.
Let’s Work Together
Get in touch so we can start working together.
