What Trauma Can Feel Like

Trauma does not always look dramatic from the outside. Many people continue working, parenting and functioning day to day while feeling constantly on edge internally. You might notice anxiety that feels disproportionate, difficulty relaxing, emotional numbness, or a sense that your nervous system never fully switches off.

Some people experience intrusive memories, flashbacks or nightmares. Others describe feeling detached from themselves, struggling with trust, or reacting strongly in situations that logically feel “safe.” You may find yourself over-analysing conversations, anticipating threat, or shutting down emotionally to cope.

Trauma can also show up in subtle ways — chronic shame, people-pleasing, perfectionism, difficulty setting boundaries, or feeling responsible for other people’s emotions. Often, these patterns made sense at one time. Therapy offers space to understand them and gradually build something steadier and more secure.